Love Masquerade

I look into the faces of so many who are desperate, longing for love. I see relationships based on need fulfillment and fear masquerading as love. I have been offered this kind of "love" many times. I have received marriage proposals that were based on sexual attraction or a desire for me to bear their children. I have experienced unhealthy attachments (again, need fulfillment issues) masquerading as love. I have experienced shallow exchanges that look like love but barely touch my core.

Human beings are such strong yet fragile creatures. We've been through so much pain, and we seek solace in each other. Often we seek a human vessel in which we can pour the love we want to give. We save it so long for "the one" that when find someone who accepts us, we cling to them desperately. Sex connects regardless of your opinion of it. Some people use sex to create the connection they don't have. Everytime there is a fear of separation, they start to cling desperately to the other and use sex to feel closer to the other person. I see this as fear; not love.

Relationships are great opportunities for growth, but there is great value in solitude as well. Knowledge of self prepares us for great relationships.